VH1 Basketball Wives

OK I have mixed emotions about this show. I don’t even really want to look up all the characters names. What pissed me off first is that it seems that black people in sports & entertainment are the only ones worthy of reality shows. I saw a tweet the other day that said… something along the lines of “I asked a black athlete why he only dates Asian women and never black women, and he said because of Basketball Wives.”

What I want to say to this is something that I can’t really express fully, you’d have to sit me down for dinner with a nice  glass of rum & coke. But, what I will say & did respond is that, if you get your views of black woman from ONE reality show, then you’re ignorant. Not your views, not your personality, YOU are an ignorant person. It’s like the census, black people come from all over the world, but somehow one word– (no wait it’s black, african american and negro) is used to define us. We come from all over the world, have different upbringings, attitudes and beliefs. For someone to categorize us from a reality show is absurd.

So I said, let me watch the show; plus, I was curious to see what Shaunie was up to. Some of the women have had the self respect, worth and courage to leave their trifiling husbands. The strength, especially in America (where money is usually equated with your level of happiness) to start over, to decide not to take the BS of not just groupies, but a husband’s blatant indiscretion and disrespect to yourself AND your family is incredible!

I respect women who respect themselves & it’s sad to watch beautiful woman like Jennifer Williams lose her dignity (I’m sure a little more over every episode) until she gets a backbone and decides to leave her husband. Did you see them @ Mr. Chows (I believe) the way he sat back and slapped his mouth eating those ribs?? You can really never buy class… LOL she was clearly embarrased and he couldn’t care less. Why? She hasn’t set any standards. He blatantly told her–no you can’t come with me tonight, it’s not your place. wow it’s ok to talk to your wife like that. umm ok so I don’t know these people personally–but let’s move to the party in Miami when she confronts Plastic Surgery. Really, I understand some women are very very persistent and persuasive, but umm are you really worried about Plastic Surgery–when your husband has told you to your face & in front of millions –that it’s not your place to be with him, you can’t roll with him… wha??

I wish her the best & deep down a woman will never be happy when her husband, boyfriend or even love interest is unfaithful. Infidelity takes a toll on any relationship. It is the ultimate betrayal! Just the thought of it makes me cringe *shudders* No Fendi bag, Range Rover or million dollar home should replace your self-worth & self-respect. Maya Angelou said,  “black women have resilience, whether we like it or not.” I truly agree with that, we are soldiers (Soldiers of Love 🙂 as Sade would sing) and I want to see more of us act like that. Don’t allow yourself to be disrespected & disregarded. Don’t allow yourself to be tainted for the next man. Find peace & happiness in life–it’s the only way to truly be open for life’s blessings.

Let’s hope to see more of  Shaunie on the show & see her being  that role model for ALL of the women. One with class, respect and pride and not phoniness and cowardice.

This is not written from a preachy POV, it has taken me time to learn how to not be bored and demand the respect I deserve. I’m NEVER bored. I’m not a millionaire. I work a 9-5, design t-shirts, exercise, spend time with family, write, travel, volunteer, donate money, eat & do all the other things a normal 28 year old would do :-* A key to life is to always have a hobby. Always have something that you enjoy doing, something that does not infringe upon and hurt others , of course. Take up a new form of dance or art–some kind of creativity — finance class even (that will SURELY keep you busy!) But do something so that you never lose yourself in a whirlwind of the fast life & money.


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